ConnectionDeep in it
Small rituals that keep long-term couples close
The tiny, unglamorous habits that quietly do the heavy lifting in a decade-long love.
Mr. Desire
8 min readMay 12, 2025 Science backedWriter at Notty Talks. Curious about desire, intimacy, and what actually keeps people feeling like themselves.
The tiny, unglamorous habits that quietly do the heavy lifting in a decade-long love.
Why it matters
In the deep in it chapter, this is where the real work — and the real reward — quietly lives. Small, honest choices, repeated.
Real talk, zero shame.
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Try one thing this week. Notice what shifts. Come back to it next Sunday.
Sources
- 1. The Science of Trust, John Gottman (2011)
- 2. Attached, Amir Levine & Rachel Heller (2010)
